Tennessee Leeuwenburg schrieb:
I don't have a casual attitude towards breaking code, just an open mind towards discussions on their merits. I don't really appreciate the negative tones, and I'm sure that if anyone else is in the firing line, they wouldn't appreciate either, even if it to some extent it's all a bit of a storm in a teacup. Unless someone who is happy to cop a bit of flak stands up and says that's not on, then maintaining a "thick skin" -- i.e. putting up with people putting you down, be it through a clear and direct put-down, or through a more subtle implication -- becomes the norm. It becomes acceptable, perhaps indeed even well-regarded, to take a certain viewpoint then suggest that anyone who doesn't share it is doing something wrong.
The problem is that people whose proposal immediately meets negative reactions usually feel put down no matter what exactly you say to them. If there was a polite way of saying "This will not change, please don't waste more of our time with this discussion." that still gets the point across, I would be very grateful.