It's not the content of the advice (don't push stuff uphill) which got to me at all, it was the tone and manner in which it was conveyed. Much of the email was well-balanced, which I fully acknowledged. Maybe you're just more inclined to overlook a few bits of innuendo, and probably most of the time so am I. However, it's actually not okay, and the implied personal criticism was very clearly present. It wasn't severe, ,perhaps my reaction was quite forceful, but it's just not okay to be putting people down.
I do not see any attack whatsoever, just advice which you took wrongly.
However, this last section really got under my skin. It seems completely inappropriate to devolve any well-intentioned email discussion into an appalling self-service ad-hominem attack.
...se of Fortunately without a backing argument),
'Fortunately' as is clear from the context, was in respect to your expressed casual attitude toward breaking code. Some people have a negative reaction to that. In any case, it is a separate issue from 'default arguments'.
He recommended that you not beat your head against a brick wall because of a misconception about what is currently socially possible. He then suggested something that *might* be possible. If that advice offends you, so be it.
> attempt to bully me out of my position (recomment you accept this behaviour
> is here to stay) are not appreciated.