[BangPypers] Fwd: https://github.com/pythonhacker/ladies.py

Sun Sep 8 20:35:04 CEST 2013

My apologies folks,  this was intended to be send directly to the individual, not to the group.

I generally ask someone to justify their beliefs, not to see if I agree or not, 
but merely to determine if they have bothered to think out their own position.  If they haven't done any thinking.....

So, like alot of you, I'm ending this thread too.

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 From: CsquaredinOmaha <c2inomaha at yahoo.com>
To: Bangalore Python Users Group - India <bangpypers at python.org> 
Sent: Sunday, September 8, 2013 1:18 PM
Subject: Re: [BangPypers] Fwd:  https://github.com/pythonhacker/ladies.py

That is what I thought - you have no answers and are simply interested in forcing others by your bullying.

I took it off topic, directly to you, because I was honestly interested in your reply
and didn't want your reply to be compelled to be less than honest.

So my asking you a question you don't want to answer  means you label it  "troll"
and  wondering your position on equality of free speech is "ad hominem" .....

Your stance and attitude do  your cause disservice.
 I don't believe you have even it any thought and perhaps don't even grasped my point.
Which is unfortunate,  it seems as so many liberals, that you are being loud without being thoughtful.

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From: svaksha <svaksha at gmail.com>
To: Bangalore Python Users Group - India <bangpypers at python.org> 
Sent: Sunday, September 8, 2013 12:49 PM
Subject: [BangPypers] Fwd:  https://github.com/pythonhacker/ladies.py

Chris, was it easier to troll in private than on the public Bangpypers
mailing list? If you're reduced to ad hominem and that too in private
off-list messages, you're pretty clearly out of anything remotely
relevant to say.
svaksha ॥ स्वक्ष

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From: CsquaredinOmaha <c2inomaha at yahoo.com>
Date: Sun, Sep 8, 2013 at 5:36 PM
Subject: Re: [BangPypers] https://github.com/pythonhacker/ladies.py
To: "svaksha at gmail.com" <svaksha at gmail.com>

svaksha,

Let me see if I can summarize your string of responses:

You are offended by Anand making fun of a group that used ".com"
instead of ".org"
and he apparently was sarcastically bringing into question/criticism
some parts of your stated mission.

In the subsequent emails, you threatened to report him and announced
you felt the need to shame him on this list.

So in essence Anand poked fun at some of your organizational
decisions, and your response was to threaten.

You would be a better representative for your views if you
1) Develop thicker skin about criticism - if you are confident in your
cause, you don't have to be so easily offended.
    This episode illustrates that you are not.  It makes your
position, like your confidence,  look weak.
2) Threatening to get someone in trouble over an opinion is "political
correctness", which is very damaging to open discourse and thought.
     You not only have the right to voice your opinions, but also as
part of that right, you have the right to dislike another's opinion.
     This should never be confused with the non-existent right to shut
up someone when they displease you...
     You would not want someone to shut you up when they disagree with
you - so have the decency to recognize that applies both of you.

I have had this discussion many times - for some reason programmers,
despite having a college education,
did not seem to pay enough attention to civil rights class.

I realize you were angry and this is how you dealt with the insult you
perceived.
But unfortunately when you react, by being easily bruised,
unconfident, and demanding suppression of  others....damages your
cause.

Now, final note - Anand made a point that has been made many times
before, and I would be interested in your response:
   "What purpose is served by creating a women's group, instead of
joining the existing group thus making it more diverse?"
    In other words, what purpose is served by intentional segregation?

Regards,
Chris
Payments Systems engineer - Omaha, Nebraska, US

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From: svaksha <svaksha at gmail.com>
To: Bangalore Python Users Group - India <bangpypers at python.org>
Sent: Saturday, September 7, 2013 9:53 PM
Subject: Re: [BangPypers] https://github.com/pythonhacker/ladies.py

On Sat, Sep 7, 2013 at 8:49 PM, Anand B Pillai
<anandpillai at letterboxes.org> wrote:
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> Hi,
>
> On Sunday 08 September 2013 01:44 AM, svaksha wrote:
>> On Sat, Sep 7, 2013 at 6:20 PM, Anand B Pillai
>> <anandpillai at letterboxes.org> wrote:
>>> +1. Btw, I founded and manage this list, but I see my "actions"
>>> deserve some explanation. As Sriram, said I do have a (somewhat
>>> extreme) sense of sarcastic and dry humour. I am also a PSF
>>> member from 2010 and also President of PSSI.
>>
>> So? If anything, you should be held to higher standards as a PSF
>> member and PSSI president.
>
> I have my personal standards and I am not the type of person
> who likes to project stereotypes if you understand what I mean.
> I like to break stereotypes.
>
> Btw, if you have heard of the term "anarchy", possibly that corresponds
> best to what I did. Maybe you aren't used to people in position
> resorting to anarchy, but I have often found it effective.
>
> See, people come from various backgrounds and beliefs, so
> the most civilized thing to do is to respect the other person's
> view points while asserting your freedom to differ instead
> of trying to ram down your thoughts down other's throats
> again and again.
>
> This is especially true in mailing lists. Being the last person
> to post in a thread doesn't mean you are essentially right. It
> possibly just means either people are shutting you out or
> they are treating the thread now as noise - or they are just
> indifferent.

Am I supposed to thank you for your patronizing attempt to silence me
because now you sound even more arrogant than before.

>> I hope Anu's email was explanation enough.
>
> Yes it was to an extent and since the matter is settled, I am not sure
> what you are trying to do by sending these follow-ups.

An "if you were offended" is not an apology. "If" is a conditional
statement and a classic "non-apology" masquerading as an apology.
Since you took the trouble of creating another repo:
https://github.com/pythonhacker/chillpill , I am curious if this is
another "humorous" version of STFU. Did you forget to add some python
code?

>>> My "isnt_that_odd" function of ladies.py was specifically
>>> written to bring this point. Happy to see it hit the target.
>>
>> Anand, now you just come across as self-entitled and arrogant. The
>> "if apology" not withstanding.
>>
>>> 2. Mission - It would be nice to educate us all in this list
>>> about the goals of a separate organization for "ladies coding" as
>>> apart from the general PSF umbrella. I am not misogynistic
>>
>> You have been a PSF member since 2010, so did you question the PSF
>> when they gave a $10,000 grant to the Pyladies.com org? I'm
>> curious because you want to know about the motives of a chapter.
>
> No, I wasn't aware of it at that point as I don't keep
> track of these things regularly. However since the local
> chapter had started and there were a few emails, I have been
> thinking more about it.
>
> Being a member of PSF doesn't mean you agree with everything
> and also take on everything you may not agree religiously. There
> are grey areas where you defer your considerations to a future
> date - let me say this was one of it.

Nobody asked you to agree with everything, I certainly didnt. The fact
that Anu was able to start and get support for PyLadies-BLR from the
PSF proves that she was able to kickstart it without your support.
Right, you dont need every PSF member to agree on everything.

>>> in anyway, but in general I don't personally agree with "woman
>>> coding" as a separate problem as opposed to "people coding".
>>
>> I hope you raised these objections on the PSF mailing list too.
>
> I have been thinking more about it but as I see this is an issue
> more of politics than technology and society, I may not.
>
> But I might as well - I don't know at this point.

The next time you see anything related to PyLadies or women in Foss,
feel free to air your sexist view that women's groups "is an issue
more of politics than technology and society" on the PSF list. The zen
of Python decrees that "Errors should never pass silently." and
"Explicit is better than implicit".

svaksha ॥ स्वक्ष
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