Brandon's personal style (was)

[Brandon J. Van Every]

G. Feldman wrote:
> "Brandon J. Van Every" <vanevery at 3DProgrammer.com> wrote in message
> news:<bhrk91$2d28f$1 at ID-203719.news.uni-berlin.de>...
>
>> Well, I'll freely own up to being rude and intellectually violent.
>
>> It's annoying when people can't/won't tell the difference.
>
> By admitting to being rude, your annoyance becomes irrelevant.
> Rudeness indicates a disregard for others, hence it's correct and
> appropriate for others to disregard your feelings about the use of the
> term troll.

Sure.  And I just killfile them.  It makes all our lives easier.  Very
rational, emotionless, antiseptic solution.  I like it!

> If you want people to care about what you say, you need to care enough
> about them to be polite about it.

This really all comes down to one's Rules Of Engagement.  Everyone has their
own coda and mores, whether implicit or explicit, about what kind of
communication they think is acceptable and what isn't.  I rarely break my
own ROE.  However, I know that other people don't share my ROE, and
interpret my behavior according to their own ROE.  This can lead to
troublesome reverberations that neither one of us finds acceptable.  I end
the bad vibrations by putting people in my killfile, immediately.

One of my Meyers-Briggs type components is "Thinker."  "Thinkers" and
"Feelers" can be big, big trouble for each other.  They often have pretty
opposite ideas about what's important in a debate.

-- 
Cheers,                         www.3DProgrammer.com
Brandon Van Every               Seattle, WA

20% of the world is real.
80% is gobbledygook we make up inside our own heads.